Thursday, April 2, 2020

3/26/20

I suppose if I were to go back in time and write a science fiction novel I might date it in the year 2020.  It has a nice ring to it and I think it's a year that nobody thought would ever actually arrive.  But here we are.  It came, and other than a bunch of technological advances that we tend to take for granted these days, it came without much incident.  As it turns out, the calm stillness with which it arrived was a mere facade.  Who knew that 2020, in a few short months, would change the world in a way that has literally never been experienced by mankind?

As I write this, we are in the middle of what can be defined as organized chaos.  The bustling world that we are used to being a part of has literally shut down due to a seemingly insignificant mammal that we refer to as a bat.  I'll leave the rest of the story there to the experts because it's all very scientific and I don't want to pretend that I am qualified to give any sort of detailed explanation about it.  I'll  just leave it at "bat".  It is interesting to think about how humans usually determine power by money and weaponry but the Covid-19 virus isn't something we can throw these things at and win.  That doesn't mean we are completely powerless but definitely more vulnerable than the majority of us had imagined.

It happened gradually.  It first came out in the news that there was a new virus we needed to concern ourselves with.  I remember kind of rolling my eyes and thinking, "Not again!".  I recalled all the other viruses from the past that amounted to very little.  Swine flu.  Bird flu.  SARS.  Mad Cow Disease.  West Nile.  These had all come, instilled fear, and left.  I figured the media was hyping it because if they don't have anything to hype, they don't have a job.  I also suspected it could be a political scam used to try to get people not to vote for Donald Trump in the upcoming election.  I didn't take it too seriously.  Then things started happening.  Public closures started to spread faster than the virus itself.  Church was one of the first thing to be canceled.  President Nelson knows some things about medicine and took the World Health Organization seriously.  No more church meetings of any sort and nobody would be attending the upcoming General Conference that we'd been told at the previous conference would be different than all others and one we would not soon forget.  We knew it was going to be a commemoration of the 200th anniversary of the first vision of Joseph Smith.  We didn't know that wasn't the only reason it would be unforgettable.  No more church meetings also means no more seminary teaching in person for me.  I've had to get trained on how to teach class online.  This type of instruction will begin on Monday, March 30th.  I am terrible with technology but hopefully I'll get the hang of it soon.

When Disneyland closed down, I knew the government meant business.  No public gatherings of over 250 people could be held. Good thing I had gotten my Disney fix on a ladies trip just two weeks prior to them closing.  It was fun but we were extremely careful and paranoid.  We each had our own bottle of hand sanitizer that we applied after every ride and as often as we could remember to apply it, we did.  I remember someone from home calling me as we were in line for Pirates of the Caribbean.  When I told him where I was, the first thing out of his mouth was, "You're gonna get the Corona Virus."

Right after these closures, schools got canceled.  It had started with after school activities.  Eventually kids away at college were told to go home and finish their studies online.  Local schools announced that they would not be opening after spring break.  All classes would be carried out online for at least a month.  Teachers would have to scramble to figure out how to best accommodate students remotely.  My daughter Brooklyn is a senior and is very sad that she won't be able to accomplish her goal of lettering in track.  She is also worried now that they will not be able to hold a graduation ceremony.  She hadn't even wanted to attend until a chance arose that she might not have the option.  Funny how we take things for granted and don't appreciate them until they're gone.

With all of the craziness going on, we were unsure about whether or not to carry out our spring break plans to go to Costa Rica last week.  On the one hand, the world was shutting down and there was a dangerous virus on the prowl waiting to pounce.  But on the other hand, monkeys. I admit that choosing to go to Costa Rica was probably not one of our finest decision making moments.  When we were weighing out the pros and cons we decided that the virus was out there and we could get it pretty much anywhere.  We also decided to wear extremely uncomfortable heavy duty masks through the airports and on the planes.  We used hand sanitizer tirelessly and wiped our surroundings down with lysol every chance we got.   I did feel a sense of hostility coming towards us from the many people who chose not to do these things.  This sensation was justified as a lady told us exactly what she thought of us and our masks as soon as the plane touched down in LAX.  After I explained to her that we had every right to protect ourselves I think some people on that particular plane understood the inappropriateness of what that lady had done and felt a newborn sense of compassion for us.  I started receiving warm, knowing smiles.  However, on other planes and through the airports, looks of hostility seemed magnified.  That is, until we found a mostly vacant hallway with a nice breeze blowing through from the outside.  There, we removed our masks and laid down a blanket to play Skipbo.  As people walked by and saw us, all they could do was give us a big smile.  It was a stark contrast and enlightening to me as I had never known that simply wearing a protective mask would make people so angry.  Looking back, I think the masks were just an unwelcome reminder of what was coming and for this reason, made people cranky.








We were mostly secluded once we got to Costa Rica.  People had already started hiding away.  None of our flights or hotels were full.  We were pretty secluded despite visiting national parks and famous beaches.  We were the last people to be taken on a zip line tour until further notice.  People there were being educated by government workers. You couldn't walk into a restaurant or grocery store without being doused with alcohol.  Mid way through our week there, things started shutting down.  When they announced that their border would be closing we decided it might be smart to go home early.  There was no getting through to the airlines so we ended keeping our original flight schedule.  Though we had fun in Costa Rica, the trip was tainted by fear and seemed to last much longer than 1 week.  When it finally came to an end, we arrived at the airport to find the line to security was out the door, down the street and around the corner.  Multiple security guards and taxi drivers were making videos of us as they drove by.  It was unlike anything they'd seen before and they wanted to document the chaos.  I'm sure if we looked hard enough, we could find ourselves on youtube standing in the airport lines dawning face masks and madly applying and reapplying hand sanitizer in San Jose, Costa Rica.  Luckily, despite stopping to feed the crocodiles along the way and a crazy detour to McDonalds, we still arrived at the airport 3 hours early so the line was no sweat off our backs.




4/2/20
Now that we're home, all the missionaries are being sent back to their home countries. National parks have closed and  last night we were awoken by an alarm on our phones that we did not set from the Larimer County Public Health Director stating that we are all ordered to stay home unless seeking medical treatment or getting supplies.  We are allowed to go outside but we must stay 6 feet away from other people.  New rules and laws about social distancing and self quarantine are developing daily.  (Inserted later that day: For example, by the time I finished this writing today, the school had called to inform us it wouldn't be opening again for this academic school year.) I look at my Covid-19 app several times a day to see how many have been reported as infected, how many have died and how many have recovered.  Just less than two weeks ago while we were in Costa Rica, there were less than 100,000 cases.  Now there are over 1 million.  I am always doing the math to see what percentage of lives are being taken out of those infected.  Right now it looks to be about 5% but only about 20% have actually recovered so that number isn't accurate.  Brooklyn's English teacher's husband just died 2 nights ago.  He was 45.  John's nephew Parker has been infected.  Symptoms are starting to take hold now but he's young so he should be okay.

The night before last we got up the courage to order take out for the first time since arriving home from Costa Rica.  We ordered online from Cafe Rio for Taco Tuesday night.  We had to wait outside the restaurant for a worker to bring it out to us.  We weren't allowed to set foot inside.  We expected that.  What we didn't expect was the wait.  When we arrived, there were people standing outside the door waiting for their food so we knew our food wouldn't come immediately.  What we failed to notice was the full parking lot and the people sitting in their cars who were also waiting for their food.  Since restaurants have had to cut employment by about 50% they were under staffed and we ended up waiting for our "fast food" order for an hour.  We are not likely to do that again any time soon.  By the time we got home I wasn't even hungry anymore.

Besides toilet paper and cleaning products, there's been a run on a few other essential items.  One of them being eggs.  Don't ask me why.  Nothing has happened to the chickens.  I've never been in want of eggs until now.   Of course, I'll consider myself lucky if this is the extent of deprivation I experience. We do have two bantam chickens out back that did their absolute best to cover (bless their chicken hearts) but they fell short.  So John and I went to Costco Tuesday night and were given 2 options. We could buy either 12 eggs or 150 eggs.  I talked John into going with the 150 option because the less we go to the store the better.  We had fun playing Easter bunny (especially fun since Easter is 1 week from Sunday) and leaving eggs on neighbors' doorsteps.  I even got to have short conversations with some of them which was a special treat during this time of social distancing.  I struck a conversation with one neighbor who has been particularly flippant about this whole quarantine thing.  It surprised me because he works in the medical field but I guess he thinks Covid-19 is some sort of conspiracy.  As he spoke he kept coming closer and closer to me which is a breach of quarantine etiquette.  He told me that he probably has it but, "So what?  I''ll get sick and then I'll get better.  So what?  Life goes on."  He said the only people who really need to worry are the elderly and people with preexisting conditions.  I told him that I didn't want it because I have Asthma and he said, "Oh.  Then I'll back away from you.  You're right, you don't want it." Eye roll.

On the upside of quarantine, I am getting projects done.  I finally painted my bedroom which had been on my to do list for around a decade.  And look at this!  I've started writing in my blog again after a 5 year hiatus! Brooklyn and I are finally finishing a quilt we started a few years ago.  I'm sure I will finally get Bryton's mission scrap book done.  The kids have taken up jogging.  Whitney is trying to learn to eyebrow thread.  Family Tic Toc videos are one of our new specialties.  I've taken up at home yoga classes.  There's been lots of art work going on in the dining room.  Ward members have taken to doing drive by parades to welcome home missionaries sent home early due to the virus.  Of course, the kids have online homework and John works from home.  My job as a health educator has been temporarily canceled for the last couple of weeks.  However, I did teach my first seminary lesson today via Zoom and besides a few glitches it went okay.  This morning, Brooklyn expressed desires to dye her hair pink.  I'm inclined to let her just to break up the monotony of things.  (Insert from later that day: Just finished dying it.) We do what we can to thrive while passing the time.  But more than anything, we use our phones and computers to distract us.  It's interesting that the technological advances that we didn't really flinch at in the beginning of 2020 are the things that are really getting us through this mess.  Facetime, Zoom, Skype, Amazon, online groceries orders, fast food deliveries.  Some are newer than others but they are all relatively new.  I've always had a love/hate relationship with technology but I must admit that in the situation that we're in right now, technology which we largely take for granted in this era has saved us spiritually, emotionally, mentally and financially.  Thank you technology!  I hope we can let bygones be bygones.


Thursday, March 26, 2020

First Day of School

I made it through another first day of school.  I'd like to think that every year I am a little more savvy about my kids' schools and have the routine down to a science.  This year, just as in previous years, I was surprised at how much this was not actually the case.  I've always strived to get my kids to school on time.  Especially on the first day.  I was shocked 2 years ago when Sydney reported back to me on the first day of school and told me that she was the last one to class and that everyone was working on an assignment when she walked in and got stared down.  Wait a minute.  I watched her walk into her class 5 minutes before the bell.  How can they start school before the bell even rings?  This year, I inadvertently found out.  After a peaceful morning including a pancake breakfast, John left to take the older kids to school at 7:15.  At 7:25 it just felt like it was time to go, so I left with Whitney.  As soon as I got out of my neighborhood I realized how early we were.  School didn't start until 8:00.  That's when I made a  u-turn and started heading home.  That's when I decided that it wouldn't hurt me to be early and that I would get an awesome parking spot if I went now.  That's when I did another u-turn and headed to school after all.  I was bewildered when I arrived at school only to realize that I was the last one to get there.  It was 7:35.  Are these people crazy?  They don't even open the doors to let kids in until 7:50 and the bell doesn't ring until 8:00.  I know that people are excited because it's the first day of school.  So are we.  But not  typically excited enough to stand and stare at it for 15 minutes before it even opens.  I now see why school starts before the bell rings on the first day.

 As I stood outside the entrance feeling a little smug about my responsibly prepared beginning of the school year papers that I had ready to turn in, I chatted amicably with fellow parents until we ran out of things to say.  That left us with about 14 minutes to kill.  I am not an engineer but sometimes I act like one.  I'm not always in the mood to converse.  I looked around the school and remembered that taking pictures of your child on the first day is a worthwhile tradition so we walked over to take one in front of the sign. The line was not short but there were two sides of the sign so you could go on either side to take a picture, kind of like a buffet table.  One side had about 10 people in line and the other side had 2.  I chose the obvious side not realizing that this was also the side that most lacked picture in front of sign taking etiquette.  You would have thought that they were taking wedding pictures.  The family in front of me had 3 different cameras and sported several different poses.  "Now one with just me."  Now one with all of us." "Let's try that other pose again." All the while I kept my eye on that other line kind of like you do in a grocery store to see whether or not you chose correctly.  Yes, it would have been faster to go in the long line.  This was no big deal.  Just a bit of a let down.  Nobody likes to lose a bet.  Despite choosing the wrong side,  I still had 10 minutes to wait until the bell rang.


After what seemed like forever, the bell finally rang and the office staff unlocked the front doors. Ignoring Liberty's new "hug and go" policy implemented to keep parents out of the school and the halls less congested,  I walked Whitney into her class.  I wasn't going to until other parents started talking about how they couldn't possibly mean for the policy to start on the first day of school.  That's when it occurred to me, "Yeah, they couldn't possibly mean that."  To my discredit, it is easy to rally me up for rebellion.  Only about 15% of the parents stood together in the cause but I am used to being in that percentile range.  Here she is with her new 4th grade teacher.  He is a good guy.  (When her 3rd grade teacher asked for help with her daughter's wedding I said, "Absolutely!  Oh and by the way, we'd really like to get Mr. Ronen next year."  [wink, wink] Maybe she would have ended up with him anyway.  But I will say that if she hadn't gotten him I still would have been glad I helped with the wedding.  It was fun.)


Whitney was one of only a few students that got a first day of school picture with her new teacher. Sometimes it pays to have an outlaw for a parent. 


I stopped by the office on my way to exit the school in order to turn my papers into the office.  That's when I found out that they had been due 3 days ago at back to school night.  Three days late is not bad though and no harm was done so I still left the school with a sense of pride at my accomplishment.  I know what you're thinking.  How difficult can it be to fill out and turn in papers on time?  Apparently it's pretty close to impossible for me because on the way home when I stopped off at the older kids'  school to drop off the preselected lunch menus that must be filled out and paid for by the 10th of each month that school is in session if you want to eat school lunches, they told me I was too late and it had been due last week.  That's when my good humor left me and all I could do was stare blankly at the receptionist.  My only response was, "Wow."  And I turned around and walked out feeling defeated. Who is excited enough about school to consider when your kids are going to eat this semester, record it on your calendar, add up the cost, and write out a check a week before school even starts?  Ummm, apparently everyone except me.  I'm only awesome enough to do that the night before so that I can come home and erase everything from my calendar and rip up my check.